Bullying

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Today I need to take a little break from sharing green beauty reviews or handmade finds or other neat pieces of information with you. I rarely go off the main topics of discussion here at Chic & Green, but today I feel I need to do so.  If anything, I can get some frustration off my chest.

I have the best role ever in this life--that of mother. I love being a mom and love my boys more than anything in this entire world. My boys are such wonderful, unique little guys and I just adore them with my whole heart.

My son Nick is 8. I've shared some stories about him back before he started preschool, back when Chic & Green was born. Nick is a cool dude. He is a bit quirky (hey, that's a good thing), loves to talk about Greek Mythology, Star Wars, facts and figures, and neat facts he finds in National Geographic Kids. He is a sensitive boy with a great big heart full of compassion and kindness. He loves to dance and sing and he is not afraid to be who he is. He embraces the fact that he is different from other kids in many ways and carries himself with poise.  He's a great boy--last week, he was named Star Student again at school and he just makes us proud to be his parents.

His kindness, sensitivity, and unwavering trust and belief that all people are inherently good also makes him the target at times of the class bully. This is the same class bully who picked on kids back at AGE 4 in preschool.  The same class bully who knocked a little GIRL to the ground and hurt her last year at school. The same class bully who kicked my son and left bruises on his legs two weeks ago.

Yesterday, Nick was playing outside at recess. He was being teased by a couple of boys, one who is supposedly his FRIEND who was just at our home for a birthday party a week ago. This friend apparently told the class bully to "attack Nick." This is after his "friend" called him an "idiot" and "lunatic."

Nick was knocked to the ground after being pushed in the chest. He told a grown up (one of the recess aides) what happened and the bully was issued a 5 minute time out.

After time out, the bully decided it would be fun to try to get Nick again. Nick tried to run away from this boy. He decided to climb up the metal ladder on the playground equipment and was hurrying to get away from this bully. Nick slipped and banged his forehead on the metal rungs to the ladder. The force was so strong, he was knocked unconscious and he fell to the ground on his back.

No one noticed that this happened to Nick. Not initially. In fact, the bully is the one who got a grown up to come help Nick.

I was sitting here packing a box of jewelry to mail to the boutique my jewelry is in down in Virginia Beach and chatting with my mom on Facebook when the phone rang.  The school nurse called to tell me that Nick had been injured and that I needed to come get him.

Thankfully, we are extremely close to the elementary school.  I ran over to meet him in the office.  The nurse walked Nick in. He was dazed and holding ice to a mammoth egg on his forehead. Nick wasn't himself at all.  He was confused and hurting. At the emergency room, the events were recounted to us. We thought this was an accident.  We thought Nick was having fun playing and just lost his footing.

To find out that he was trying to run away from the bully who had just knocked him to the ground is shocking and unacceptable.

Nick was closely monitored and is home today resting.  We had to go back to the doctor to follow up and to make sure he is OK.  My sweet Nick blacked out and suffered a concussion because of a bully. Nick is just 8 years old. He wouldn't harm a fly.  He is concerned about world peace and everyone getting along. He is the peacemaker when his friends have a dispute. He tries to see the good in everyone. He even tries to explain that perhaps the bully has had bad things happen to him to make him act like this.

You can better bet this this mom will not be accepting "boys will be boys" or "they were just playing" or "accidents happen." Something will be done about this situation and I will not accept anything less than a solution that involves true consequences for the bully so that this will not happen to any more kids.

We've all heard quite a bit about bullying on the news.  Nearby in Buffalo, a teenager recently took his own life because he was being bullied. This is happening all over this country. Yes, there always has been bullying, but something is wrong in this society. Where does an elementary school child learn to do such things? How is it OK with parents to raise their children this way? This is NOT acceptable. And it is not even just children.  Look on the internet at message boards and in workplaces and there is bullying. People need to wake up and realize that it is not OK to treat other human beings this way. We live in the suburbs in a great school district.  It even can happen here.  It happens everywhere and it is wrong.

My child is home resting with a head injury.  Thank God he is going to be OK. We have to watch him carefully and pray that he doesn't injure his head again because a secondary concussion could be much more serious.

Are you a parent? Do you know--really know--how your child is treating others? I think some of you would be shocked.  I know there are parents I know that would be shocked if they truly knew how they treated others at school. It's time to get involved--police what your kids are doing, what they're watching, who they're involved with. I am thankful that our school is listening and investigating. And I promise to keep you all updated as well. My child should not have to have suffered a concussion for others to open their eyes, though.


Keep a lookout--know what is going on in your child's life. If you see someone getting picked on, SAY SOMETHING, DO SOMETHING, DON'T STAND FOR IT!
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