The Next Chapter: Secret 9

Friday, March 6, 2009





"Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail. "

 ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


Today is Friday and it is time for another discussion of The 12 Secrets of Highly Creative Women by Gail McMeekin. This is part of a blogging book club founded by Jamie Ridler.

Secret 9 deals with transcending rejections and roadblocks.

At some point in our lives, we will all fail at something and feel rejected. It's just part of life. Just as every teenager feels that angst of puppy love and their first broken heart, we all will deal with some type of personal disappointment or rejection in adulthood. I think it is just a fact of life.

What matters, though, is what we do with that rejection. 

I remember feeling a sense of rejection when I was 19 and my dear friend Shaun told me "Karley, when you get knocked down you can either sit in a corner and pout and be defeated or you can stand up, pick up the pieces, and dust yourself off. It will all work out for the best in the end. You'll see."

And it did. I was a college girl with a broken heart. The "love of my life" --or so I thought as a college sophomore--and I had broken up during summer break. Looking back, I realize that that 9-month relationship wasn't true love. It is nice to look back on it, but it is nothing compared to what was awaiting me a couple of years down the road: meeting Tom, the true love of my life. I quicklyhas picked myself up and dusted myself off with my head held high and, in the end, it worked out the way it was meant to be.

The same sense of disappointment or rejection can follow us into our creative or professional lives. Perhaps you applied for a job you wanted and didn't get it. Maybe you entered a comptetion of some sort and didn't place first. You may have had a wonderful idea that your boss quickly deemed stupid. Or maybe you made a mistake and thought you'd never get past it.

Being rejected actually can be a wonderful opportunity. I know someone who was in a job she hated for years. She applied for a promotion and didn't get it. She saw that rejection as an opportunity to do something new--pursue her creative dream in the arts.

It's like the old adage that when life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade.

When you are rejected or experiencing personal disappointment, if you pick yourself up and dust yourself off with your head held high and your sense of self worth in tact, you can overcome it.


I've failed before and made mistakes. Who hasn't? We're all human. We can quit and give up, or we can believe in ourselves and experience tremendous personal growth.

We all will fail at some point. We all will stumble along the way...from a small issue to a large gaffe. If we learn from that sense of rejection and we persevere,  I believe that we become better people in the end. 

Life isn't easy. There are roadblocks everywhere. I am experiencing that again right now. My once bumpier road was going so smoothly. Everything seemed to have fallen into place and I felt as though my hard work was paying off with the mention in BODY + SOUL, launch of my new site, etc. Not many lemons for me...lots of lemonade, you could say. 

Then a couple of weeks back--BUMP. Another detour as I keep my health in check. I've had to slow down a bit and being closed for a few weeks is a bump in the road to me. 

I am not going to pout about it (been there, done that). I will embrace this small bump in the road and I'll even learn a bit from this period of R & R, I am sure. We all face hurdles.
It's how we navigate through them that makes all the difference in the end.

Elbert Hubbard, an editor and publisher who died in the early 20th century once said, "A little more persistence, a little more effort, and what seemed hopeless failure may turn to glorious success."

I believe we should all remember that when we are dealing with roadblocks, whether they be creative, personal, or professional. Rejection happens, but we must remember to stand tall and make lemonade from those lemons we get dealt from time to time.
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